Why Wanting it is Stopping You from Having it?
The Burning Sensation of Desire
Desiring something might be considered a good thing or a bad thing depending on how you look at it. Sometimes you want something so bad that not having it hurts. Other times you know that wanting that something is what gives you the strength to move on.
In either case, it is not the wanting that is causing the discomfort, it is the intensity with which you want it and your approach to it. In other words, it is the attachment you have to that idea. The more you want something, the more it seems to escape you. The more relaxed you are about it, the more it comes to you.
This is a paradox I’ve always had a hard time understanding. How can I pretend that I am well living without something that I really want? How can I pretend that I don’t want it? How can I pretend that I am not trespassed by daggers each moment that it isn’t here in my presence? Or, basically: how can one be relaxed about something one really REALLY wants?!
Let’s take a closer look at the nature of desire. What is desire? According to the dictionary: “Strong wish to do or have something.” “If you desire something, you want it.” So, basically, what we already knew! But what if we could see “desire” for what it really is?
