Why do People Complain so much?

Natalia Costa
6 min readSep 17, 2023
Pic from Ryan McGuire from Pixabay

If you ask anyone in the world who has spent some time with a Portuguese person, you will find out that one of the main characteristics of the Portuguese is to talk about things that they are not happy about.

Only when I lived in Norway was I confronted with this genetic characteristic that I inherited. At first, I was in denial, of course. No one really wants to accept the shadows about oneself. I had heard that I was a whiner before, even in my homeland, but I couldn’t quite see it. I believed that talking about something and telling it like it was, could be a remarkable trait, especially if I could be extremely detailed about the issue at hand. Having such a deep sense of analysis could be the first step to improving anything or anyone — at least, so I thought in my narrow-minded point of view.

It was necessary to live the day-to-day of a totally different culture to see the mirror in front of me. As I observed how other people behaved and, especially, how they talked, I realised that all my life I had an overly emphasis on talking about things that were not good or not OK, rather than focusing my attention and my words on things I appreciated. This was such an eye-opener for me!

Using myself as an example, may not translate the trait of an entire people, but as I lived in different locations, as I met diverse cultures and people, I increasingly realised that this is a cultural characteristic, rather than a personal one. Of course that the education that each person received may have a tendency to take one closer or further to complaining, but I would say that there is an overall tendency for it in my country. Perhaps in yours it’s the same too!

In any case, complaining is part of being a human and it can be very noticeable on the day to day of life on Earth, particularly in certain circles or situations. Sometimes the whining also takes the shape of dagger blows, those comments that people jokingly make with a smile as a way to release their own bottled-up anger or frustration.

So, the question that arises is: why do people complain so much? Why is there a tendency to complain rather than to be grateful?

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”…



Natalia Costa

Human being 🐒 Engineer by day, Poet by night ☯️ Writing about emotional intelligence A.K.A. applied quantum physics. ♡ www.SkinAtHeart.com