Release Control and Be Happy with What Is

Are you a control freak? Keep reading!

Natalia Costa
5 min readMar 6, 2024
Photo by Oscar Keys on Unsplash

I know, I know! Dealing with uncertainty can be quite challenging as it directly stirs our innermost fears. Even though it is a natural part of life on Earth, we - humans - have a really hard time accepting and dealing with uncertainty, therefore we created a whole set of structures to help us cope with that.

However, more often than not, the more we try to control our experience, the more panicked we feel about the future or unpredictable variables. It’s like we try to set up a whole system where we can feel safe, but life always comes back to surprise us…

No matter how many rules and regulations you set up and follow in your life to try to plan it out like a precise Swiss clock, things just don’t work that way. And, even though small everyday rituals may be helpful to have some sense of safety, or knowing what to count on, nothing will save you from the unpredictability that day-by-day is prone to.

There’s only one way to deal with the uncertainty that being alive entails and this perspective will ultimately change your life: there are things you can control and things you can not! This simple conclusion gives you clarity and assists you in shifting your perception and, consequently, your attitude toward your experience.

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Natalia Costa

Human being 🐒 Engineer by day, Poet by night ☯️ Writing about emotional intelligence A.K.A. applied quantum physics. www.bynataliacosta.com