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Does love only come after sex?
Sex and love in the age of technology
In the age of fast apps and having everything in the palm of your hand, is love still alive? Do we live in a sex culture and is love obsolete? What is love after all?
As I looked up the meaning of love in several dictionaries, I saw that love is defined as a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. It is also described as a feeling of warm personal attachment with sexual passion and desire.
But what is love?
The closest that could define love would be a powerful energy felt by human beings. There are, of course, several types of love, but for the purpose of this article, I will solely focus on couples.
A more adequate definition could be that love is an energy you feel towards someone with whom you also want to have sex with or make love with. And here is the root cause for the blending of love and sex.
Sex has always been a taboo in our societies. The main reason for this taboo is socialisation and the consequent emotions associated with sex, that often vibrate in the scale of shame, guilt or fear. (1)
Is it, therefore, wise to think that it’s the emotions associated with it and not sex itself that make the subject such a huge taboo and source for so much pain…
