3 Reasons Why You Are Begging for Love (and how to start a romance with yourself)

Did you ever feel like no matter how hard you try you are not able to feel loved? You try to please, you try to focus on yourself, you try to do things in a certain way, you try to be in a certain way, but somehow you just can’t get that emptiness fulfilled.

You often believe that you will feel better if you have a good relationship, a loving supporting partner who is there for you and who instigates the best in you, or you believe that if you get that promotion, you will feel better for you’ll have a better salary and, therefore, you’ll feel freer and more secure. And the list of conditions goes on.

Why do we keep placing condition after condition for us to feel in a certain way? Why do we search for love out there and project it into people and/or things?

1 — Your Parents Didn’t Know Any Better

We’ve been taught that in order to be successful or happy certain conditions would have to be met and then — only then — could we feel deserving of love or happiness. This scarcity mindset was placed upon us due to the constant practice of conditional love.

“If you do your homework, then you are a good girl.” “If you clean your room, then you are a good boy.” “You are a bad person for…